Wrapping Your Head Around The Self Judgment Of Yourself

Today I did a photoshoot, with DigiThin's photographer Cody. We both work out regularly. He is super buff, I'm getting there. So we took turns at who would pose and who would be the photographer.

We both found out that being behind the camera was so much better then being in front of it. It is super hard to pose, and I have so much respect for models, it's not an easy-peasy job at all, it's super hard.

You have to put your body into positions that are not normal. You have to twist part of your body one way and the other part the other way, all the while, by sucking in your gut, holding up your chin, dropping your shoulders, and putting your hands in the right position.

On top of that you have the human problem going on. Yeah that problem with our self judgment of ourselves. Both Cody and I have done the selfie photo shoot, and I'm not talking holding your cell phone out and snapping, I'm talking setting up a shoot, and hitting the timer button and running out in front of the camera and posing.

Even doing that, by yourself all alone with no one else around, it's really odd, but you find yourself incredible nervous. WHY? This is something both Cody and I asked ourselves. How can we be nervous taking pictures of ourselves alone? This makes no sense. One would think that being alone with no one else around that taking a picture of yourself would be easy, but it's not. It's easy on your cell phone, but if you set up a real photo shoot scene, it's nerve racking.

We also learned today that we both have harsh judgments of ourselves. When we put the shots on the computer we both found things about ourselves that we did not like and it really bothered us both, yet we did not see the flaws in the other person.

It is us, ourselves, who judge ourselves the most harsh. I don't know why us humans do this but I think it causes us problems in life. I think we have to get away from it. Cody had all these things that he thought was wrong with him and I saw none of that. I only a saw a beautiful man with muscle and a super beautiful smile. I'm not really sure what he thought of my shots, but he seemed surprised I had a big beer belly, he said I never saw that in real life. How did the camera show that? (drinking too much beer)

I think us humans, I think we judge ourselves to harshly. No one judges us to the extreme’s we judge ourselves. I don't know how I'm going to get past this, but I'm going to try, because I should not condemn my flaws, if others don't see those in me, then why do I? I think it should start with believing what others say. If they say you look good, then I should believe that and not go down the list of flaw's I think I have, and start condemning myself. I am a beautiful woman, no matter what my age. I am not perfect, but I am beautiful.

Take Cody for example, here he is 25 years old, an Afghanistan war vet, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with him in my eyes. He is beautiful. He takes care of his body, but he is not perfect. None of us are. Yet he thought he had things wrong with him.

As long as you and I are alive, then we have nothing wrong with us. As long as we are working on being good humans to each other and helping others, then there is nothing wrong with us. We are all beautiful – So smile and don't listen to that self judgment, because it's wrong

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