Someone mentioned to me at a meeting that, there is no more privacy with the internet. “We are all out there” the person said. It's so true, all of our social networks like Facebook, are ways we expose ourselves to others, not just our friends. Even if we don't want to.
One of my relatives is super freaked out by Facebook so much so, that some time ago this person sent out an email telling all the people they knew. “I'm not going to be letting this information out, because it's only for you, and not the world! If Facebook doesn't change then I'm out” This person was so upset that Facebook was going to somehow violate their personal life, that they were willing to just never get on Facebook.Me, I'm different.
I could care less what the world knows about me, and what I've done. I'll show you all my skeletons in the closet and more if you like. But most people do not want to know the other persons skeletons, except paparazzi. Who the hell cares who fucked who, or who did drugs? When are we going to to get over that shit, I wonder.
The fact is, with all these social networks, and all of us using them, we're all in a great big circle at a campfire talking to each other.
“I love so and so from England, and so and so from South Africa pisses me off, and so and so from Detroit, well I love him!”
I'm not so afraid as my relative is. I'm jumping in and saying hello to the world, because that's how it is now. Everyone who joins a bunch of social networks is part of the giant circle. Welcome, to all my new friends!
Here is the part that bothers me.
The gadgets we use, and people putting spy ware on them. Today I read some upsetting article about how if you order certain new cell phones you can have it come with preloaded spy ware. This spy ware is to spy on the person using the phone. Hmmm. So one of the cells listed was mine! Yippy! My new cell phone comes with secret spy ware on it! This made me upset. Yet how can I be upset if I don't care what the world knows about me? Well here is my reason, and read it carefully, because this is true for you too!
Yes, I am a person who would tell anyone any skeleton about me.
That's a fact. But that's the point. I am the one who chooses to tell it if someone ask, or I feel like telling it. If someone spy's on me, and then spreads the dirty dirt of my skeleton I get really upset about that, THAT PISSES ME OFF! It's my dirt, and I want the right to expose that dirt when it's the time to expose it. I don't want some secret NOT-admirer spreading my dirt with out my approval. It's my dirt, let me spread it! It's not yours for the spreading!
When I share myself with the world, I share myself. I don't want some sneaky sneak, sneaking into my my mind and spilling the dirt before I do. That's insulting! It's violating, and it smells like rape of the mind to me.
For the sake of the world people, STOP spying. Everyone is going to tell their secrets or dirt one way or the other, but to extract that from ones personal private life is purely rape of the soul. How despicable you are to do it.
Let me tell you, when the internet first came out, and CHAT rooms were some big thing, well there I was watching t.v. and they told me I should check my kids chats. Even though I felt it was so wrong to invade my son's private life, I did it, because the t.v. told me it was being a good parent. I was so mad at myself for doing so. All he talked about in his chats, is the same things he would have talked about on the playground. It was none of my business! I believe every human being deserves the right to have a private life. A life where they share with you only what they want to. It's not like they are keeping the secret to Fort Knox. It's just that everyone of us has the right to choose what we tell one person and maybe we don't tell that to another. That's ethical, don't fuck with it!
When you choose to use spy ware and spy on your spouse or your kids, well, I believe you're really the asshole.
The stupid paranoid idiot, who thinks by knowing more then what you were supposed to know, makes you one up on someone.
I never spied on my son after that. I felt that I had violated his personal world of his mind, and that only he has the right to share that with me if he wants too, if he chooses too.
He grew up to be a great human being, and one day I confessed to him what I had done. You know what he said when I told him, “I never spied on you again and I never will”, he said “Thank You Mom” the look in his eyes was pure sincere appreciation, that I didn't invade his childhood mind. I didn't invade is right to share what he wanted to share, with who he wanted to. That is the sacred ground. If you violate it because you're paparazzi, well your money seekers. If you violate it because you like the technology of spy ware, well then your an idiot, who doesn't care about scared ground.
Don't rape a person's soul by spying on them.
Who the hell cares if they cheat on you, or what ever you're looking for. It happened 50 years ago and the same things will happen today. Humans will still do what they want to do. You cant's stop those things even if you spy. We're humans, all of us deserve the right to a private life in our mind or with choosing who we share that private life with. When some freak spy ware asshole invades it, well that's trash, that's wrong.
Let us share our lives in this great big circle we are in of social networks.
Keep the sacred, sacred. Everyone needs a personal ground they can be free in. Don't violate it because your curious, or you think you can change the outcome. Rape of the physical body is a crime, and rape of the mind, and what another does with that mind is sacred ground. Mess with it only if you are an asshole.
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